We can tell them that there are tons of things they can do, even if they only have a few things in mind. That's why we've decided to create this comprehensive guide that will help you know, based on science, how to be happy. If you use these 23 practices consistently, you will be much more likely to increase your personal happiness:
1. Find out what to do first.
How could you build your happiness without knowing which resources are causing you the most problems? In this sense, it will be useful for you to answer a questionnaire to explore your strengths and weaknesses, but also to better understand what these resources consist of and thus learn how to improve your weaknesses, in order to finally build your "strengths of happiness".
2. Develop your self-confidence.
Why would you bother trying to increase your happiness if you don't think you can do it? That would be silly! That's why it's so important to develop your self-confidence, to prove to yourself that you can improve your happiness. The best way to do this is to start with some fairly easy skills, like gratitude or making it a priority to do fun things for yourself. You'll get immediate satisfaction and therefore be more confident that you can really change your life.
3. Accelerate your progress as you learn to feel better about yourself.
You wouldn't practice math to improve your cooking skills or learn another language to lose weight. On the road to happiness, you will probably make more progress by focusing on the skills that are most closely related to happiness. In research, the one that stands out is self-esteem. Learning to feel better about yourself - for example, by imagining yourself at your best, noting your positive qualities or identifying your strengths - can go a long way toward increasing your happiness.
4. Create balance and overcome burnout.
How can you have the energy to be happier by being exhausted and unhappy at work? That would be really difficult. Developing new skills, skills that will help you be happier, will take time and energy. So it helps you to create a better work-life balance first.
5. Develop the right mindset
A mindset focused on personal development refers to the belief that we can change ourselves. As far as our own happiness is concerned, it means thinking that we can really be the actors of it. This is super important because without this conviction that we can increase our happiness, we wouldn't even bother to try.
6. Create positive memories.
Every area of our brain can be strengthened through practice. Since our brain is really good at remembering negative things that happen, it is very important to strengthen the regions responsible for remembering positive things.
7. Find the bright side of each thing.
Everything we experience can be a disappointment if we choose to look at it that way. On the contrary, look for the advantages or positives in your life and you will be surprised to discover that there is a lot of positive. Keep practicing to increase the positive, decrease the negative and thus cultivate happiness. In addition, this skill is linked to a better ability to cope with stress and be more resilient.
8. Know how to turn off your social networks.
Facebook or Instagram tend to have a negative effect on our happiness. By choosing to cut back a little or by changing the way we use social networks, we can boost our happiness.
9. Spend smarter for more happiness.
How we choose to spend our money affects what we can do, how we live and therefore our happiness. When we choose a slightly less luxurious home or car - things that don't bring us much happiness at the end of the day - we have more money to spend on adventures or gifts for friends: things that really make us happier. Put memories and experiences ahead of material possessions!
10. Communicate in a caring manner.
When we are caring with others, we feel better about ourselves. We can do good deeds for others, show empathy, or simply behave respectfully towards each other.
11. Put an end to your negative thinking patterns.
Let's face it: sometimes we are what makes us unhappy. We can't stop thinking about how this or that person hurt us, or how our life didn't turn out the way we hoped.
Negative thought processes - such as worrying, brooding, judging ourselves and fearing rejection - keep us unhappy and unable to move forward. When you think negatively, pause and reframe your thoughts. Over time, your brain will be able to do this more easily on its own.
12. Find clarity.
How can you move your life forward when you don't even know what you're feeling or why you're feeling it? To become happier, try to clarify your emotions, find out how you feel and what caused those emotions.
13. Respect your values to be happy.
As you begin to discover yourself and explore your values, you may find that you've always known what could make you happy, but you just never did. To be happier, define your values and live your life independently, according to your own principles and values.
14. Care for the good.
Of course, sometimes life is hard, but by paying attention to the good, you can rise above the difficulties and be more resilient. When you find the good, savor the moment and keep it within you to maintain your state of happiness even in difficult times. You can also try to think of a time in the future when you will feel better.
15. Use your imagination to create the life you want.
Did you know that your brain has trouble telling the difference between what happens in your imagination and what happens in real life? This means that when you imagine something - even happiness - your brain acts as if it were real. So we can use our imagination to help create happiness out of nothing and enjoy our experiences more.
16. Keep an open mind.
Sometimes you want to escape. The world seems dark and scary, but by practicing mindfulness, we experience the positive and negative more fully. We are more fully engaged in our lives.
17. Discover what happiness means to you.
We all define happiness in different ways. When you know what happiness means to you, you will find it easier to find it. So explore happiness - what it means and what it looks like - to create it more easily.
18. Pursue "life.
How can you change your life by doing the same things you've always done? It's pretty hard! Instead, push yourself to overcome your fears and embrace life with enthusiasm. Try to "do the opposite" to see how you feel and make your brain more flexible.
19. Be yourself to be happy.
When we let people walk all over us, we are unhappy; but when we stand up for our own needs with confidence and express ourselves, we feel more in control of our lives. Learning to express yourself can help you overcome interpersonal challenges that can make you unhappy.
20. Find your goal.
We all want to feel like we've made a positive impact in this world, but sometimes we're not sure what kind of impact we want to have. Explore exactly what gives meaning to your life and how you want to pursue that goal.
21. Make connections that make sense.
Did you know that we like pretty much everything we do when we do it with other people? That's why one of the best things you can do for your happiness is to build relationships and social connections that make sense to you. To strengthen these relationships, practice caring and gratitude for the people you care about.
22. Beware of the hedonic spiral of hell.
The "hedonic spiral" refers to our tendency to return, over time, to our original level of happiness. To increase this basic level of happiness, you can try to change your physiology through nutrition and sports. Get out of your comfort zone and continue to bring diversity to your life.
23. Hold yourself accountable.
We are more likely to do the things we say we want to do if we make time for them in our schedules. Engaging with your loved ones on a goal you want to achieve will help you stay focused and not give up for fear of disappointing them.
In short, you can be happier. It's just a matter of building the right "happiness skills".