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Wounds Of The Soul

Most people are unaware of this, but every human being carries within him many wounds of the soul. According to Lise Bourbeau, an author specializing in personal development, there are five of these wounds, mainly due to our life experiences in early childhood. They can also be due to other parameters, such as transgenerational memories.

Although these injuries tend to go unnoticed by the majority, they have a significant impact on our worldview and our relationship with others. They are then at the origin of various unconscious blockages and repetitive patterns.

Let's discover right away together which are the 5 injuries that can prevent you from being yourself, and let's observe how to identify them in order to better dismantle them...

 

The rejection injury

Although it can have different explanations, the rejection injury is usually revealed in the first year of life. It is related to the relationship with the same-sex parent.

The person suffering from a rejection wound has felt a prohibition to exist or to be oneself from this attachment figure. Of course, this is primarily a subjective emotion. It does not always mean that the parent has really rejected the child, but that the child has experienced it as such.

 

How is the rejection wound expressed?

The wound of rejection is characterized by a deep fear of not being accepted by others as one is. This perpetual anguish of being excluded leads to flighty behavior.

Indeed, the person suffering from the wound of rejection tries to protect himself unconsciously by closing in on himself. Finally, he prefers to avoid others for fear of their judgment. She has integrated that it is better to remain alone rather than risk reliving a situation of rejection.

As a result, people with a rejection wound are often obliterated within a group. Very discreet, they rarely dare to express their opinion. They have a very low tolerance for tension and take all remarks to heart. As soon as they have the impression of being in danger, they prefer to run away rather than face the obstacle.

Like an infernal spiral, this attitude generally generates even more rejection. Rejection reinforces the injury already present, and the reinforcement of the injury causes more and more flight.

The person suffering from a rejection injury has many qualities. They are creative and have a rich inner world. Perfectionist, they are capable of a lot of work to achieve a goal that they are passionate about. Unfortunately, the injury prevents her from exploiting her potential.

 

The physical characteristics of the rejection injury

Physically, people with a rejection soul injury often have a very thin, rather asymmetrical body, with almost "knackered" parts, and a tendency to walk with slumped shoulders. In women, a small chest, or very flat buttocks are often observed. The eyes are often small, dark circles, and the person struggles to maintain gaze during a conversation.

It should also be noted that the individual with a rejection injury is often prone to facial skin problems, such as acne or eczema for example.

He or she may also often dress in black, as he or she tries without realizing it to go as unnoticed as possible. Her whole physical appearance gives the impression that she would like to make herself as small as possible, or even disappear.

 

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The abandonment injury

The abandonment injury is usually between 1 and 3 years old. It is related to the relationship one has with one's opposite sex parent.

The person suffering from an abandonment injury has felt that they lacked emotional nourishment from one of their primary attachment figures.

Again, this is not necessarily an absolute truth, but a feeling, sometimes even unconscious, on the part of the child.

 

How is the abandonment wound expressed?

The person with the soul wound of abandonment has an extreme fear of loneliness. Due to a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence, he maintains the false belief that he cannot survive psychically without the presence of others. He thinks he is incapable of being self-sufficient. Thus, he puts on the mask of an addict, clinging to those around him.

Even more, the wound of abandonment pushes him to always seek the approval and admiration of others. In groups, he tends to use various stratagems to put himself forward. Hating to go unnoticed, he constantly tries to draw attention to himself. He can even be criticized for always bringing everything to himself in conversation.

Sometimes, the person suffering from abandonment injuries would even unconsciously create problems for themselves in order to create empathy for those around them. For him, to be a victim is to have the assurance of remaining at the heart of the concerns of others.

 

The physical characteristics of the abandonment injury

People with abandonment injuries often have thin, flabby bodies. It is exactly as if their muscles seem underdeveloped.

They usually have one or more particularly low or sagging body parts. Their shoulders are drooping, as if they were carrying a heavy load.

People with abandonment injuries often have a small, slurred, plaintive voice. It is not uncommon to have the impression of hearing a child speaking.

 

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The wound of humiliation

The soul wound of humiliation also takes shape between 1 and 3 years. It can be related to both parents, and more specifically to parents who tend to repress physical pleasure.

The person with a wound of humiliation felt a ban on the pleasures of the senses. The latter are always cut off from what is "dirty" and "shameful".

 

How is the wound of humiliation expressed?

The person suffering from a humiliation wound has a constant need to prove his or her worth. He feels he has a real duty to be useful to others. To the point where he does not hesitate to sacrifice his own well-being for that of others. He bends over backwards to satisfy all demands, sometimes even to the point of exhaustion and burn-out.

He also has great difficulty expressing his emotions. For him, everything that is intimate is necessarily a source of punishment. He represses his feelings both psychically and physically. Sex is for him something pleasant, but humiliating.

Very often, the person with a wound of humiliation lowers himself on the tone of derision. In the eyes of others, he has a lot of humor. But in reality, there is real suffering hidden behind these repetitive jokes. Deep down, he feels unworthy, and may even come to a real disgust of his body and his being.

 

The physical characteristics of the humiliation injury

Most of the time, people suffering from the wound of the soul of humiliation are overweight. One observes a round face, large naive eyes, and a short waist.

It may seem strange, but the person with a humiliation wound often seems to stain his clothes unintentionally. He also dresses in a rather tight way, putting forward his few extra kilos.

 

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The wound of betrayal

The wound of betrayal occurs between the ages of 2 and 4 years. It is related to the parent of the opposite sex. The person suffering from a betrayal injury felt betrayed by the parent.

This betrayal may have taken the form of lies, broken promises, or simply a feeling of lack of investment in the relationship.

It is also possible that the parent was vulnerable to the child, and that the child, for various reasons, saw this as a sign of weakness.

 

How does the wound of betrayal manifest itself?

The person with the wound of betrayal is a real little dictator in the making. Particularly authoritarian, he seeks to always impose his opinions. On a daily basis, he wears the mask of control, which explains his absolute need to always know and decide everything.

Unable to let go or to trust, he swears by performance. He likes to show an image of himself as invincible, which pushes him to hide his emotions.

On the surface, he looks like an ideal leader, but in reality, he is deeply irresponsible. Indeed, the individual suffering from the wound of betrayal always blames others for his own shortcomings. He is unable to question himself or to open up new horizons. Sometimes he or she even does not hesitate to resort to manipulation to achieve his or her ends.

He would like everything to always be done his way, leaving no room for those around him. He is very demanding and wants everyone to obey him to the letter. Like the center of the world, he believes that others cannot succeed without him, and loves to maintain this image of omnipotence.

 

The physical characteristics of the wound of betrayal

Physically, the wound of betrayal manifests itself as a muscular upper body in humans. In the woman, it will be rather large and strong hips.

In both cases, the person suffering from a betrayal wound appears to have a firm body, often corresponding to certain Western beauty criteria.

As for the eyes, they are expressive and seductive. The person with a betrayal wound does not hesitate to look his interlocutors straight in the eyes. He walks with his head held high and his chest bulging. His clothes rarely go unnoticed.

 

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The wound of injustice

The Injury of Injustice develops between the ages of 4 and 6, in the relationship with the same-sex parent.

The child has experienced a lack of tenderness on the part of this attachment figure. He had the impression that he could not be himself, and that he had to earn love through performance.

 

How does the wound of injustice manifest itself?

The person suffering from a soul wound of injustice is particularly uncompromising towards himself, as with others. He thinks he has a duty to be perfect in all circumstances. He absolutely wants to correspond to his ideal, or to what he thinks is expected of him. For her, everything must be justified and justifiable. She maintains a culture of meritocracy.

Wearing a mask of rigidity, the individual with a wound of injustice has learned to develop extreme self-control. He has difficulty expressing his emotions, and tends to cut himself off from his feelings. He takes a lot on himself on a daily basis, so that when the cup is full, he can react in a totally disproportionate way, exploding unexpectedly.

He never wants to admit his weaknesses and pains. On the contrary, he pretends never to be in pain, or never to be helpless, even though this is obviously false. He refuses to accept an outstretched hand and believes that asking for help is proof of weakness.

Although he is actually very sensitive, he is often seen as cold and impassive. This feeling of lack of empathy is actually due to the fear of losing control over his own emotions, which causes him to cut himself off completely.

The person suffering from a wound of injustice always perceives himself as a victim of others. He is convinced that the whole world is abusing him. They tend to dwell on their plight rather than take action to change things. Sometimes he even shows himself to be unfair to those around him. Without realizing it, he often does to others what he himself is afraid to do.

 

The physical characteristics of the wound of injustice

On the surface, the individual with a wound of injustice is rather attractive. He likes to take care of his appearance and to please others.

However, one notices always dry movements, a tight jaw, square shoulders, a very upright posture, and a certain stiffness in the legs and arms.

The eyes are lively, the complexion radiant, and the voice dry and fast.

The person with an unfair injury usually needs to feel tight around the waist. Therefore, he often wears belts or tight clothing.

He can easily manhandle his body, overpowering it, or ignoring physical pain. He also boasts that he never gets sick.

You now know what the 5 wounds of the soul are. It is even possible that you have found the ones that match you. If so, don't panic.

 

 

 

Conclusion

The wounds of the soul are not fatal. On the contrary, better targeting its wounds is an excellent way to move towards wellness in everyday life. And you, what are your wounds? How did you identify them? What were your solutions to heal them?

 

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